So have you sat there talking to someone you’ve known casually and suddenly felt feelings that can in no way be described as casual? Can your sub conscious mind suddenly feel a certain vibe…a certain something that makes you look at this regular, always around the place guy differently? Or were these feelings always there? Lingering in the background…
Have you met someone new…someone who in no way would seem a possibility? When you’re happy with the way your relationship is going but there you are sensing these insanely crazy feelings of want for someone you don’t think you’d even be meeting again?
Have you chucked aside moral values to take a chance at exploring these feelings? Would you sit and judge someone who did?
Would you take that chance and then get back to your life - like nothing happened? Can you?
Have you wanted to be with someone simply because they make you feel secure and you’d rather settle for that sense of security than live with the notion that “love” is forever?
Have you been crazily in love with someone and promised them “heaven” and “earth” only to fall in line with your family and throw aside a chance at forever? Just so you don’t hurt the family that made you what you are?
Have you woken up one day and realized you no longer feel the same way about the man whose name you moaned out the previous night and so many nights before?
Have you jeopardised your best friend’s relationship because you couldn’t share your friend with anyone? Have you fallen for your friend’s partner?
Have you fallen for your first cousin or someone in your family and let your feelings dictate your life?
Have you been an abusive relationship? Let someone walk all over you and not made an attempt to get out …
……………………………………………………………………………….????
Conversations with a friend and having experienced some of these feelings myself, I find over time relationships can’t be set to clichéd norms. How two people live and choose to be in a relationship move beyond clichés like “loyalty, commitment” and even the oft repeated excuse for individual freedom “space”!
What troubles my mind is unlike before I somehow can’t let my mind take a straight forward safe view in terming what people frown upon as wrong. I find my mind stepping into the shoes of the people involved and more often than not, I can sense why…I can understand why…and my heart can’t simply follow the crowd and term it “wrong”… I’m not sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing?
Have you met someone new…someone who in no way would seem a possibility? When you’re happy with the way your relationship is going but there you are sensing these insanely crazy feelings of want for someone you don’t think you’d even be meeting again?
Have you chucked aside moral values to take a chance at exploring these feelings? Would you sit and judge someone who did?
Would you take that chance and then get back to your life - like nothing happened? Can you?
Have you wanted to be with someone simply because they make you feel secure and you’d rather settle for that sense of security than live with the notion that “love” is forever?
Have you been crazily in love with someone and promised them “heaven” and “earth” only to fall in line with your family and throw aside a chance at forever? Just so you don’t hurt the family that made you what you are?
Have you woken up one day and realized you no longer feel the same way about the man whose name you moaned out the previous night and so many nights before?
Have you jeopardised your best friend’s relationship because you couldn’t share your friend with anyone? Have you fallen for your friend’s partner?
Have you fallen for your first cousin or someone in your family and let your feelings dictate your life?
Have you been an abusive relationship? Let someone walk all over you and not made an attempt to get out …
……………………………………………………………………………….????
Conversations with a friend and having experienced some of these feelings myself, I find over time relationships can’t be set to clichéd norms. How two people live and choose to be in a relationship move beyond clichés like “loyalty, commitment” and even the oft repeated excuse for individual freedom “space”!
What troubles my mind is unlike before I somehow can’t let my mind take a straight forward safe view in terming what people frown upon as wrong. I find my mind stepping into the shoes of the people involved and more often than not, I can sense why…I can understand why…and my heart can’t simply follow the crowd and term it “wrong”… I’m not sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing?
16 comments:
Those who have the balls will take that step come what may.
Sadly more than half the world is filled with sissies who piss in their pants the moment they see that a r'ship needs some work.. hence such things are best only to talk/write about. Pity!!
While reading through this post, i was wondering 'whew! this one has lived a very chequered life when it comes to relationships'.
The fun part is, i still dont know.
j - i dunno y a show of such guts is always defined by such male chauvinistic cliche's @ "those who have the balls" .... :)
@ sissies - it's ppl who don't want to face the aftermath or foresee more trouble tht don't make it work...
aakash - err ... that's not all me. Some of it yes.
seen/felt these happen too often. this is what nightmares are made of :(
very valid n imp qns there Twilight...
**there you are sensing these insanely crazy feelings of want for someone you don’t think you’d even be meeting again?
many times LOL!
**Have you chucked aside moral values to take a chance at exploring these feelings? Would you sit and judge someone who did?
yes for both :)
**Would you take that chance and then get back to your life - like nothing happened? Can you?
thats the only thing I cudnt do...will never be able to do..
**Have you wanted to be with someone simply because they make you feel secure and you’d rather settle for that sense of security than live with the notion that “love” is forever?
yes..
**Have you been crazily in love with someone and promised them “heaven” and “earth” only to fall in line with your family and throw aside a chance at forever? Just so you don’t hurt the family that made you what you are?
no...but my ex-BF did that to me.
**Have you woken up one day and realized you no longer feel the same way about the man whose name you moaned out the previous night and so many nights before?
yes..but it happened due to what he did...the choices he made.
**Have you jeopardised your best friend’s relationship because you couldn’t share your friend with anyone? Have you fallen for your friend’s partner?
nope...
**Have you fallen for your first cousin or someone in your family and let your feelings dictate your life?
yes...it happened...but it was just a silly crush bak when I was younger. I grew out of it thank God :)
**Have you been an abusive relationship? Let someone walk all over you and not made an attempt to get out …
yes..in a emotionally abusive one. And took me awhile to get some sense into my head n get out...
**How two people live and choose to be in a relationship move beyond clichés like “loyalty, commitment” and even the oft repeated excuse for individual freedom “space”!
I so agree.
**and my heart can’t simply follow the crowd and term it “wrong”… I’m not sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing?
true...even I cant do that. Cos everyone is different. But as humans we do judge initially atleast..it's unavoidable.
Great post girl!
Keshi.
Great post.:)
***What troubles my mind is unlike before I somehow can’t let my mind take a straight forward safe view in terming what people frown upon as wrong. I find my mind stepping into the shoes of the people involved and more often than not, I can sense why…I can understand why…and my heart can’t simply follow the crowd and term it “wrong”… I’m not sure if that’s a good thing or a bad thing?
I like that. And i would say there is a good side and bad side to that kinda thing. From most count i will say its a good thing. As long as we don't let our opinions get to our heads in our terms of demanding its accuracy it should be fine i feel.
A very thought provoking post.:)
Something i would want to come back to and read again.
*hugz*
Thats a great song..Loved it! many should hear it.
Cheeries!
answering the questions one by one.. so it mite be longer than the post.. don't mind Ms Twilight :D
**So have you sat there talking to someone you’ve known casually and suddenly felt feelings that can in no way be described as casual?
yes.. its a different feeling.. you talk talk talk like buddies and suddenly u start thinking over *him* n mulling over *him* and then realise its more than casual feeling :D
**Can your sub conscious mind suddenly feel a certain vibe........
sometimes it suddenly errupts from no wer.. sometimes u do it consciousy...sometime r sub concious mind demands to feel in a different way
*whistles*
:p
**Have you met someone new…someone who in no way would seem a possibility? .........
ye ye :D :D *GRINS *... the thought of something happening from no where is awesome.. lol.. u not prepared love the way its happening suddenly there is a twist in the relation.. thats awesomeeeeeee
:P
**Have you chucked aside moral values to take a chance at exploring these feelings? Would you sit and judge someone who did?
WHO the hell has time to sit n judge damn! if the act is worthwhile dont waste time BABAH! :p... explore it! :D
**Would you take that chance and then get back to your life - like nothing happened? Can you?
not really.. cos u still have the hangover :D *rolls my eyes*
lol
**Have you wanted to be with someone simply because they make you feel secure and you’d rather settle for that sense of security than live with the notion that “love” is forever?
iska jawabnahi hai.. life line mangta hai :p
lol
**Have you woken up one day and realized you no longer feel the same way about the man whose name you moaned out the previous night and so many nights before?
its on n off.. "kabhi haan kabhi na" types :p...
*Have you been crazily in love with someone and promised them “heaven” and “earth” only to fall in line with your family and throw aside a chance at forever? Just so you don’t hurt the family that made you what you are?
i don't commit untill i'm sure of keeping it up.. so i knw its not possible.. so better not to take chance:D
hehe
**Have you jeopardised your best friend’s relationship because you couldn’t share your friend with anyone? Have you fallen for your friend’s partner?
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO i have neva.. but my friends partner fall for me.. lollll
*batting my eyelashes*
lol
**Have you fallen for your first cousin or someone in your family and let your feelings dictate your life?
NOOOOOOOOOOOo nevaaaaaaaaaaa
:)
**Have you been an abusive relationship? Let someone walk all over you and not made an attempt to get out
i thought that was our part of the story.. i mean we girls r famous for that.. :p lol
in my case no one has done that neither have i done * GRINS* * innocent baby *
loll
bus itnahi questions.. poocho pooocho aur poocho :p
Hi,Twilight..Whew..what deep questions..Thankfully,I can't recall (m)any incidents where I have passed through such thought processes. And, when I did,they just,err'passed' without havoc being wreaked.Primarily due to common sense and/or 'putting oneself in the other's shoes'worked to diffuse the situation. *touchwood*.
Have a nice day.
great one :)
hmm intense post there...
the kind wch makes u think about it long after having read through it...
some questions juss cant be answered tht easily...:)
Interesting post and even more interesting comments...
I can relate to a couple of the questions posed.
sometimes life is nothing but questions that remain unanswered, dont you think?
Well being unique is always a good thing coz its not always necessary that what masses do is always going to be right!
Be whatever you're & feel whatever you feel like instead of complying it with the masses & then doing something about it *though i know you don't but still*
you know, i always wondered why people who claim to have total faith in love want to cut and run when they see that love needs work... it needs faith and the will to fight it out...
lovely post...
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